Are you one of those people who makes life happen or who allows life to happen to you? If you’re not sure about that, make sure to try to be someone that makes life happen.
I’ve always thought I was strong, but the one thing I learned about myself within the past 4 years is that I lose myself when I’m in a relationship that stops nourishing me.
I lose the parts of me that make me well, me. The sparkle in my eyes, the drive for more, to soak up every bit of life that makes you grow and feel like anything is possible.
I moved 4 years ago to a city where I was going to start fresh, I was going for a higher education; to make myself better. I did that, I succeeded in the higher education part, but along the way my desire to help someone that eventually stopped wanting my help took over.
When do we start losing that, that belief in ourselves? When do we put ourselves last and others first?
Love can be beautiful, but I’ve learned along the course of my life that it can be ugly. It’s in the ugly that you learn that you need to love yourself more, because how can you love someone else or be loved if you’ve stopped loving yourself?
If all this sounds too heavy & bleak to all of you well, sometimes life feels heavy but without those heavy moments you wouldn’t know what the light ones feel like.
Believe that you are stronger than all this pain and that over time it will fade away because you have overcome moments like this before.
The following are my reminders to self.
- Stop punishing yourself for the things you can no longer control.
- You will and are believing in yourself again.
- Being alone is better than feeling alone with another by your side.
- Be kind to yourself.
My Lifestate 